Plan B

“In all honesty, we would rather not have you come.”

That was not the answer I expected to hear when I called the activity director of the nursing home to set up a time for our church youth to sing Christmas carols to their residents. It was the Christmas season and, traditionally, that’s when youth groups show up to share the joy of the season.

“Let me explain,” she continued. “This time of the year we are swamped every day of the week with every imaginable group walking our halls singing carols. But the other 11 months of the year, nobody remembers us. If you want to be an encouragement to our people, bring your youth during the off-season and just sit and visit with the people—they would love that.”

Ouch. She was right. So I told her we would take her up on her suggestion and call after the first of the year.

But this meant going with “Plan B”—whatever that was! The kids had wanted to go Christmas caroling, so we decided to do that but change the location and format.

So one week later kids of all ages, as well as adults, met at our church for a family night of neighborhood caroling. Our church was located in a declining urban area, and going door-to-door to share the love of Christ in song just wasn’t done—until that year.

At the beginning of the evening, we would walk up onto a front porch, and a motion sensor would turn on the porch light. As we began to sing, someone would peer out from behind curtains. By the second song, they would stand in the doorway, smiling and singing along. Soon, porch lights were turning on at neighbors’ homes in anticipation of our arrival.

When we were about one-and-a-half blocks from the church we came to a house that was dark. It seemed like no one was home, but we decided to walk up onto the porch and begin singing “Silent Night.” Soon, the front door opened a crack, and we could see someone standing in the darkness behind the door. As we finished singing “Hark the Herald Angels Sing,” the door opened, and there stood an elderly woman. With tears streaming down her face and her lips quivering, she whispered, “Please don’t stop.”

She stood there weeping as we sang several more carols. As we finished a song, she spoke up, “We have lived here over 29 years, and this is the first time anyone has come to our house and done what you are doing.

“My husband died a little over two months ago, and I feel so alone. I didn’t know how I was going to make it, but you guys have given me hope and helped me to realize that the Lord has not forgotten me. I can’t thank you enough.”

Instead of singing our usual “We Wish You A Merry Christmas” as our final song, we gathered around her and prayed.

What started out as an evening of merriment and silliness, suddenly turned into a sacred moment of ministering to a lonely, heartbroken widow as the Lord used us as an answer to the cry of her heart.

Although that evening of caroling in our neighborhood was our “Plan B,” it turned out to be the Lord’s “Plan A.”

Don’t despair when things don’t go as planned with all of the ministries and activities that swamp your calendar this time of the year—the Lord is still at work.

“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps,” Proverbs 16:9.

Praying that you have a blessed Christmas!


Duane Miller

In 1974 I married my high school sweetheart, Molly. The Lord has blessed us with four daughters and 20 grandchildren. After eighteen years in youth ministry and twenty-one years in solo pastoring, the Lord has led me in a new direction as a ministry coach, event speaker, and author. I recently had a book published by Discovery House Publishers titled: SURVIVOR - A story of tragedy, guilt, and grace. (

Four Responses to “Plan B”

  1. Wow! Beautiful! Plan “B” was God’s plan “A”! I love it! What a great reminder to follow the Lord’s lead!

  2. Thank you for sharing…wow, it touched my heart. Asking the Lord when I go to plan “B” that He would make it His plan “A”. Very encouraging!

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