The Memory Maker

We have a memory-making machine in our house.

It’s amazing how it works. There are few moving parts and it doesn’t require any external energy source. Anyone can use it, anytime. In fact, the more it is used, the more effective and life changing it becomes.

I don’t want to boast, but it is so effective that there have been numerous scientific and sociological studies done as to how and why it works so well. It has been shown that use of this memory-making machine leads to noticeably lower rates of drug abuse, teenage pregnancy, and depression. There is also a noticeable drop in adolescent use of tobacco and alcohol. There is a marked improvement in grade point averages and higher self-esteem in students as well as a lower level of obesity and eating disorders when this memory-making machine is used at least five times each week.

This memory-making machine is also called the kitchen table.

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What is amazing is how few families actually take advantage of this truly life-changing piece of furniture. All the benefits mentioned are accurate. The simple act of families sitting down together at the table and eating a meal together at least five times a week changes lives. Yet studies show that only 59% of American families practice this habit.

Can you imagine the impact it would have if all Christian families took advantage of this wonderful tool? If eating five meals a week together makes this much of a difference, the spiritual impact it can have in a Christian home are mind-boggling. What better place to teach and model godly principles, to share the ups and downs of life with those you love, and to learn what it means to be part of a family.

It is interesting that whenever our kids and grandkids come over for a meal, we sit around the table talking long after the meal is over, laughing and kidding each other as we share memories. It is a time to reconnect and remember not only the happy times, but also those times when life’s lessons were painful. There’s something powerful in the talk between people who have their knees under the same table and are passing a bowl of green beans or taking a bite of food. Generational boundaries disappear, as everyone is free to join in. Kids learn conversation skills and manners without even knowing it.

When Moses penned the words, “These words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your houseā€¦” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7), I wonder if he wasn’t thinking of the dinner table?

Why not give it a try. Put the food on the table, and turn off the TV, video games, and computer. Put the cell phones away, and sit down as a family to eat. You will be amazed at the power of your memory-making machine.

Duane Miller

In 1974 I married my high school sweetheart, Molly. The Lord has blessed us with four daughters and 20 grandchildren. After eighteen years in youth ministry and twenty-one years in solo pastoring, the Lord has led me in a new direction as a ministry coach, event speaker, and author. I recently had a book published by Discovery House Publishers titled: SURVIVOR - A story of tragedy, guilt, and grace. (

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